Eventually, we do want kids to say “sorry.” But instead of making them say “sorry,” Shumaker writes that it’s more effective to model saying sorry when you as a parent screw up. Just make sure your own apologies are meaningful. That means acknowledging the consequences of your actions and taking steps to make things better. For example: “I’m sorry I forgot to bring your teddy bear to school day. You missed him during nap time. I’m writing it down on my list so I will remember next time.” Soon, kids say “sorry” without prompting, and they’ll really mean it.